No one is perfect. We can all use some upgrading here and there. One thing I see many, including myself, people do, is not be the bestest friend that they can be. They are not being a bad friend on their own accord. Most of them do not realize what they are doing wrong or what they could be doing better.
Be a good friend!
Do not get me wrong, I do have some great friends. I also have some who say they are great friends who really do not know me anymore. Some I can go a long time without talking to and some I feel like I must talk to every day. Recently I walked into two of my best friends’ house after flying to see them. As we were sitting on the couch, one said “It does not feel like you just flew a thousand miles. It feels like Thursday”. That was the first time I had seen them since Christmas.
One thing that remains the same. We all have different friends at different levels but we can all stand to be a better friend.
Hold true to your word. This is very very hard for some people and very easy for others. If you say you are going to do something, then do it. It is always a bad feeling when people do not live up to what they say.
Be there when THEY need you. Also, be there when they don’t need you.Sometimes all a person needs to know is there are people in their corner. There are many, many people who have closet depression and no one knows they are depressed but them. They feel alone in a room full of people. When someone asks for you, be there for them.
Be an active listener. When a friend is needing someone to talk to, they need someone to talk to. They are not interested in how you compare to their story. If you have been there before, great. Remember what it was like when you were there, and do what someone else did for you or what you wish they did. Often, someone just needs to get what they need to say out, then they are over it.
Help before you are asked. Help them before they ask you and do not ask before you help. Many have a lot of pride and will not ask for help and will deny you if you ask. If you just go and do, both can hold their head up high.
Remember to keep good friends, you have to be a good friend. Feel blessed by those you have in your life and show them what you mean to them.